Professionalism
I am eternally thankful that, as hard as the process was, I had somebody who would be frank with me.
I was given the opportunity to read and reread. And add input or take away things from anything that had to be filed or communicated. I felt like I was very much a participant and a part of it. And they were able to make things much clearer and were concise. It helped give a focus and direction even though the other side was rather unfocused. Dragging their heels, not coming to the table.
It was quite a process, but we kept on pushing through it. Even at some points where I felt like just saying nevermind to something, I would be nudged. "Well, this should be solved. It shouldn't be left hanging open. It gives me a chance to think, "Okay, yes, let's just close this. Get this done and keep on pushing forward and make sure things get done, done." đź“Ť So things can be properly closed. I'm truly thankful that I did that, especially towards the end. I am eternally thankful that, as hard as the process was, I had somebody who would be frank with me. And would give me a general idea of what could be achieved and didn't sugarcoat it for me. I liked having the more straightforward, "This is what we may be able to achieve. This was what we may not be able to achieve." Then, getting the nudges to motivate me to keep on going to get things completed.
Even though you think once you've done your divorce, it should be completed. But if the other party doesn't complete all the tasks that need to be done for the final divorce order or the minutes of settlement, you're not done. I was glad that I was given the push that, "If they're not completing this, then we're going to have to start working on another contempt motion." And we did, and that seemed to motivate the other side to complete a very easy task but a very important one. It was one of the things I will always remember. To me, it was done just in time.
I got that big binder, the Family Law Group binder. It basically got me started to get really organized. There's an introduction letter about the expectations. Information about the process and what to expect or how to communicate with them. I do remember two things, a little quote on it that says, "What happens to us, 90% of it is what we perceive, and the other 10% is actually what happened." Or something along those lines. Another one of those little reminders, "Okay. Take a breath." Even reflecting back, I think that, unfortunately, I had a very uncooperative situation. It was very, very stressful. I found that interesting. One of those little reminders as you're flipping through the pages to relax. This will be over at some point.
I think expectations in family law and what you can get in family law are always going to be two different things. Because family law is also a learning process. With the Family Law Group, I felt that my expectations were guided rather well. What I wanted and what I get are never going to be equal.
She had generally just one law clerk that I was working with, who was also excellent. Once in a while, there'd be some other people brought in to assist in certain aspects of what I was dealing with. But I was always well-informed. I wasn't getting like, "Who are you?" It wasn't confusing. It was pretty straightforward.
She was very good at tempering expectations. Sometimes, I may not have liked what I heard or agreed with it. But it's not Brenda. It is the way that the law goes. Or the chances of things happening. Or what it actually means versus what I think it means.
They're very professional and competent. Everything from just getting things done to presentations or greeting at the door. To the preparedness, if I do need to sit down with somebody, I never felt that I'd wasted my time coming into a meeting or talking on the phone.
They were well organized and well structured. In regards to getting things done, I think they were as easy as they could have been under the circumstances. I knew what my expectations were through different steps. Or what direction things were going or needed to go. It was very clear.
It was quite a process, but we kept on pushing through it. Even at some points where I felt like just saying nevermind to something, I would be nudged. "Well, this should be solved. It shouldn't be left hanging open. It gives me a chance to think, "Okay, yes, let's just close this. Get this done and keep on pushing forward and make sure things get done, done." đź“Ť So things can be properly closed. I'm truly thankful that I did that, especially towards the end. I am eternally thankful that, as hard as the process was, I had somebody who would be frank with me. And would give me a general idea of what could be achieved and didn't sugarcoat it for me. I liked having the more straightforward, "This is what we may be able to achieve. This was what we may not be able to achieve." Then, getting the nudges to motivate me to keep on going to get things completed.
Even though you think once you've done your divorce, it should be completed. But if the other party doesn't complete all the tasks that need to be done for the final divorce order or the minutes of settlement, you're not done. I was glad that I was given the push that, "If they're not completing this, then we're going to have to start working on another contempt motion." And we did, and that seemed to motivate the other side to complete a very easy task but a very important one. It was one of the things I will always remember. To me, it was done just in time.
I got that big binder, the Family Law Group binder. It basically got me started to get really organized. There's an introduction letter about the expectations. Information about the process and what to expect or how to communicate with them. I do remember two things, a little quote on it that says, "What happens to us, 90% of it is what we perceive, and the other 10% is actually what happened." Or something along those lines. Another one of those little reminders, "Okay. Take a breath." Even reflecting back, I think that, unfortunately, I had a very uncooperative situation. It was very, very stressful. I found that interesting. One of those little reminders as you're flipping through the pages to relax. This will be over at some point.
I think expectations in family law and what you can get in family law are always going to be two different things. Because family law is also a learning process. With the Family Law Group, I felt that my expectations were guided rather well. What I wanted and what I get are never going to be equal.
She had generally just one law clerk that I was working with, who was also excellent. Once in a while, there'd be some other people brought in to assist in certain aspects of what I was dealing with. But I was always well-informed. I wasn't getting like, "Who are you?" It wasn't confusing. It was pretty straightforward.
She was very good at tempering expectations. Sometimes, I may not have liked what I heard or agreed with it. But it's not Brenda. It is the way that the law goes. Or the chances of things happening. Or what it actually means versus what I think it means.
They're very professional and competent. Everything from just getting things done to presentations or greeting at the door. To the preparedness, if I do need to sit down with somebody, I never felt that I'd wasted my time coming into a meeting or talking on the phone.
They were well organized and well structured. In regards to getting things done, I think they were as easy as they could have been under the circumstances. I knew what my expectations were through different steps. Or what direction things were going or needed to go. It was very clear.
Contact Details
Family Law Group
1579, Hyde Park Road
London, ON, N6H 5L4
Phone: (519) 672-5953