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So she ended up, without my knowledge, moving to Edmonton, and took my daughter with her. I had no idea any of this was going on.
My ex and I split up in 2018. Things did not end very well. We tried the counseling thing. That didn't work. She ended up blocking all communication. She would not let me see my five-month-old daughter anymore.
I ended up going to my parents and a couple of my friends. I tried talking to them about it and seeing what kind of advice I could get. They all didn't really have an answer for it. My mom loves therapy, so she suggested maybe going get a therapist. So I did, and he said, "Just give her some time." "She'll calm down." "She'll come back around, and you guys will be able to work it out."
I went to him for about two months. Gave her some space. Didn't really bug her a whole lot. During that two months, she must have devised a plan to take off. So she ended up, without my knowledge, she moved over to Edmonton. Took my daughter with her. I had no idea any of this was going on.
Can you describe to me what you were feeling during this time?
I do have a son with another woman. He is currently 11 years old. At the time, I think he was eight or nine. My biggest worry was that I wanted him to be around his sister. He deserved to be around his sister. I was more worried about him than I was about myself. What was talked about a lot in therapy was how I could help "\_\_" through the situation. I wasn't really focused on myself. I was more worried about my son and how I was going to help him get through this.
He took it pretty hard. He asked a lot of questions, naturally, as most little boys do. They're very curious. He was always asking, "When can I see "\_\_\_" again?" It all happened so fast. I was still going to work every day, so I didn't have a lot of time to just sit and reflect and think about it. Just trying to protect my son and then trying to help him through it.
When did you decide that you should get a lawyer?
I was getting some text messages from friends and people I know from the area saying that we don't see "\_\_\_"'s vehicle around anymore." "Her vehicle is not where she was living." She was living with her parents at the time. "Her vehicle's never there anymore, not even through the night." So I started to really worry about where "\_\_\_" was, where she was staying, and who she was around.
The whole time that I was going to therapy, I had my guard up. When people started telling me that they weren't seeing her around anymore, then I started searching. I started going back on social media, seeing if anybody knew where she was staying. I was still trying to communicate with her, but at that point, she had blocked me from everything. Email, phone, texting, Facebook, Snapchat, and every type of social media. She had blocked me on everything. I couldn't find her anywhere.
So that's when my search on Google and Facebook really started to, geographically, get really large. I was searching all over Ontario. I was typing in things like where she was working. So I was searching their Facebook pages, seeing if I could find pictures of her or anything with posts with her in it.
I can still remember the day I found a picture of her. Her name was in the caption at a brand new franchise that had just opened that week in Edmonton. My heart dropped. I had no idea what I was going to do. I knew that I couldn't just fly out there and confront her. It was probably going to end up in a bad situation.
I ended up going to my parents and a couple of my friends. I tried talking to them about it and seeing what kind of advice I could get. They all didn't really have an answer for it. My mom loves therapy, so she suggested maybe going get a therapist. So I did, and he said, "Just give her some time." "She'll calm down." "She'll come back around, and you guys will be able to work it out."
I went to him for about two months. Gave her some space. Didn't really bug her a whole lot. During that two months, she must have devised a plan to take off. So she ended up, without my knowledge, she moved over to Edmonton. Took my daughter with her. I had no idea any of this was going on.
Can you describe to me what you were feeling during this time?
I do have a son with another woman. He is currently 11 years old. At the time, I think he was eight or nine. My biggest worry was that I wanted him to be around his sister. He deserved to be around his sister. I was more worried about him than I was about myself. What was talked about a lot in therapy was how I could help "\_\_" through the situation. I wasn't really focused on myself. I was more worried about my son and how I was going to help him get through this.
He took it pretty hard. He asked a lot of questions, naturally, as most little boys do. They're very curious. He was always asking, "When can I see "\_\_\_" again?" It all happened so fast. I was still going to work every day, so I didn't have a lot of time to just sit and reflect and think about it. Just trying to protect my son and then trying to help him through it.
When did you decide that you should get a lawyer?
I was getting some text messages from friends and people I know from the area saying that we don't see "\_\_\_"'s vehicle around anymore." "Her vehicle is not where she was living." She was living with her parents at the time. "Her vehicle's never there anymore, not even through the night." So I started to really worry about where "\_\_\_" was, where she was staying, and who she was around.
The whole time that I was going to therapy, I had my guard up. When people started telling me that they weren't seeing her around anymore, then I started searching. I started going back on social media, seeing if anybody knew where she was staying. I was still trying to communicate with her, but at that point, she had blocked me from everything. Email, phone, texting, Facebook, Snapchat, and every type of social media. She had blocked me on everything. I couldn't find her anywhere.
So that's when my search on Google and Facebook really started to, geographically, get really large. I was searching all over Ontario. I was typing in things like where she was working. So I was searching their Facebook pages, seeing if I could find pictures of her or anything with posts with her in it.
I can still remember the day I found a picture of her. Her name was in the caption at a brand new franchise that had just opened that week in Edmonton. My heart dropped. I had no idea what I was going to do. I knew that I couldn't just fly out there and confront her. It was probably going to end up in a bad situation.
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